Martha Beck, a life coach, sociologist, and author of Finding Your Own North Star says that “Happiness – real happiness – is quieter and calmer [than euphoria], but that sense of peace is deeply satisfying and can sustain you through life’s challenges.”
You see, experts are now saying that the exhilarating moments of our life – winning the lottery, closing on a house, a big win – don’t provide a sustained level of happiness. And that by chasing fleeting highs, we may be missing the opportunity for true joy. Believe it or not, true happiness is not out of reach but available to us at all times, if you know where to look.
I recently read an article written by Ginny Graves for Health magazine called Find A Deeper Happiness. In the article, Ms. Graves states that despite our American desire for the pursuit of happiness, research shows that people who have happiness as an end goal tend to be less happy. Pursuing meaning leads to a more sustainable form of happiness. Having a strong sense of what matters will ultimately lead to greater happiness.
A simple way to do this is to start each morning by setting an intention for the day. This will set a more positive tone, help align your day with what matters, and keep you more present. The following three questions are recommended by Mallika Chopra, the daughter of Deepak Chopra.
- What will make me feel healthy today? Healthy body, healthy mind. Health mind, happiness.
- What will make me feel connected today? The relationships we have with the people we care about bring us a deeper sense of joy.
- What will give me a sense of purpose today? Doing something that aligns with what matters to you is incredibly uplifting.
The goal with happiness is not to eliminate all other opposite emotions. Without opposite emotions, how else would we know what happiness really is?